Let’s get started. As someone in their late 20s, it is not easy to let go of your first job, to jump to a career you thought would be good for you, and then to ask yourself what you really want in life. I am already 28, and attempting to build my life status as an adult in my late twenties is still a mess. Figuring out finances, settling into a career, making sure that your parents are well, and protecting your own peace can be so daunting.
Then come the social demands, like spending time with your friends just because you don’t want them to feel abandoned, wrestling with yourself with the things you can’t let go of from the past, and finding a life partner, which can mentally drag you down. Finding someone as your partner is not enough; it is also identifying if they are really someone who will stay by your side during the ups and downs. Recently, news about couples breaking up pups out everywhere could somehow make you think is investing in someone really worth it? How bad can it be?
The stress will continue to rise as you try to figure out how to traverse in life. I know that you have a lot of plans, like traveling with your loved ones, going on that date you promised you’d have with your mom, saving for that dream house of yours, starting up a business you’d always wanted to try, starting a new hobby, and building your savings for your future. Yet, regardless of how much you try to manage everything, no matter how much motivational podcast you listen to and how much you try to reset your week or month, nothing seems to work.
A lot of things happened and will happen, which will make our values and goals go flip-flopping all the time. Our 20s are tough. You could be broke, in debt, lost, and confused about almost everything, but that’s just life. You will gather tons of experiences, and I hope you will continue to take each situation as a learning curve and a memory. I know there is a part of you that wants to make up for those years and times you wasted making bad decisions, trusting the wrong friends, investing your time in the wrong person, and giving almost all that you got just to make them or someone happy and comfortable while leaving you empty and drained.
However, if you look back, you would wonder, “What if I tried to be more open and talk it out? Things could be better.” Most of the time, when we are in a difficult situation, it is hard for us to admit that we too contributed to that mistake, and we just can’t lower our pride. I know sometimes it is hard to talk about these things with your family and friends. But with the right person, you will know it. It will come naturally, and you will feel heard and understood without the tiniest feeling of judgment.
Deep inside, you wanted to be better. To start fresh and be the best version of yourself. Well, it is never too late. Life is not a contest. It is something to be lived. Each choice comes with rewards and risks. I know it is not easy to take the first step, pain is inevitable. But doing so will redirect your life closer to the future you wanted.
So don’t wait for another new year or another special day or a sign. Don’t wait for another minute or for another person to break you. The longer you wait, the harder it will be for yourself to let go of what was and to start fresh. Take a deep breath. In hale………. Exhale…….. Your moment will start now. Not later. Not the next day or the next year. Start it now.
So start kicking your own butt and do that thing you’ve always been telling yourself for the past months and weeks. Even starting the puzzle you wanted to try, watching that Netflix series you’ve been waiting for so long, or going back to your healthy lifestyle. Your 20s (even thirties) are not yet over. Make days count. You got this! Xoxo.
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